“Hey kid, some good advice
To bring your britches down to size
Some modesty would suit you better
So why don’t you give it a try” Extreme lyrics for Kid Ego
Now, let go of my ego!
U know I love when people say I am humble and don’t have an ego. I get that alot. Truth is I have one of the healthiest egos around. I claim I have a giant ego, but not to add confusion to the blog I’ll play that an ego maniac has a “big” ego.
First, let me say I try to be humble but the truth is, I am humble because of self-confidence. The ego maniacs or big egos are not-self confident and need constant approval of others.
Furthermore, let me get you straight on something. Everyone has an ego, you need it to be healthy so it doesn’t need to search out for compliments or approval on a hourly basis. Those that have a big ego with an eating disorder that needs constant attention.
So, when we speak of someone having a big ego we usually mean they have a grandiose sense of self-importance. There are several factors relevant in making them so conceited, which relate mainly to their true level of self-confidence. While it may seem as though someone with a bigger ego than others has a high level of self-esteem, in truth, it’s the opposite.
A person who’s really confident has no need to shout about it from the roof-tops, tree stands, duck blinds, bass boats, etc… People with big egos however, feel the need to inform everyone else they’re special, in the hope the idea will rub off. Their frail sense of self causes them to work hard at being thought of as worthwhile, because secretly they fear they aren’t.
I believe people can become under-confident to the extent that their ego increases when they develop a great fear of rejection and abandonment. They try to cover up their fear by acting as-though they are super-confident. Most people who have a huge ego expect undying love and demand respect for this very reason, making having a relationship with them tough at times. Any sniff of possible rejection causes them to recoil in fear and lash out verbally. This form of an invisible emotional shield around themselves for protection. This protection can lead to many people leaving including family, friends and spouses because of the actions or lack their of. Such ego driven emotional armour makes their hard exterior difficult to penetrate. This eases damage control, but also serves to block out love, learning and positive healing experiences they could benefit from. Having a big ego thus becomes a lonely experience in itself. They will try to destroy anyone or anything in their way that will take away any attention that they get. People who have far smaller egos in comparison can range from those who are emotionally well-balanced, to people who’ve turned fears of not being noticed into opposite types of behavior? Low self-esteem can also cause individuals to miss out on life because they don’t take part. An ego makes up for the lack of confidence and the person rejects changes in life or knowledge learned from a mistake.
One more thing, one of my favorite verses in the bible, I know I have alot but this one I try to live every day James 4:10 “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up.”